How To Live Without Shame of Your Past – Part 2
Today is Good Friday. Do you know why it called Good Friday? It is because a little over 2000 years ago Jesus Christ took our sin, shame and its consequence. The judgement of our sins was passed over to Jesus. For Jesus it was a painful and bad Friday but for us it was a joyful and Good Friday. Thank you Jesus for taking our shame to redeem us and give us a good life. There is controversy over the actual day that Jesus died. However, it is clear He died and the reason for His death is also clear. His death and the purpose of His death are the most important truth. He died for our sins and rose for our Justification.
In Genesis 3:10, Adam and his wife hid from God and instead of enjoying their usual close fellowship with God, they then felt naked and ashamed like they didn’t belong in the very community that God had created for them.
Hebrew word for Shame is Bosh and it means; to become anxious, delayed, dejected, to cause confusion and become dry!
The Greek word is entrepôt which simply means – confusion. We know God is not the author of confusion and would never put shame upon us. Just like Adam and Eve, we were not created for shame.
The Jews have a saying, “There is only one cure for Bosh (shame) and that’s Batah (trust & reliance in something other than yourself) God!!!
I know you may be thinking, “Am I never supposed to feel ashamed? What if I sin against God or man? Should I not feel ashamed?
Well, that’s exactly what I’m saying because shame is not from God. While in Jesus and believing His name, there is no shame. In Hebrews, it tells us He took it and despised it. Why would He want to give us something that He himself despised?
What we should feel when we sin against God is guilt. Guilt has been given a bad press in the lives of a Christians due to poor explanation. Guilt is looking at the sin; shame is looking at the self and seeing that self as an inadequate failure. You are not a failure you are a blood washed child of God! Guilt is what convicts us that we have sinned and need to repent. When that feeling arises, we should admit our sin and go to God asking for forgiveness and receiving it and do our utmost best through Christ not to fall into that sin again. It is when we meditate on our guilt and refuse God’s forgiveness that the guilt now becomes shame.
Your good and honest boss calls and tells you that you need to put in a better performance at work as you haven’t been meeting targets. You know you haven’t been giving your best. Guilt should make you sit down and ask yourself what it is you need to do in order to improve your productivity. Shame will tell you that you are useless, not good enough or worthy of the job, and that you’d be better off looking for something more suited to your low level intelligence when the reality of the situation is that you may need to stop taking that fourth toilet break in an hour to readjust your lipstick. With shame, you are suddenly a completely useless person otherwise your boss wouldn’t have had to speak to you. Then the shame leads to blame because you are hurt and now your boss is also useless and the spirit defiling effects of shame becomes a vicious circle of sin!
Peter looked Jesus in the eyes and denied him; imagine the shame he felt that made him to weep bitterly. But when Jesus appeared to Mary on His resurrection, He sent, especially, for Peter. If Peter had allowed shame to have him, 5000 people would not have received Christ’s salvation on the day of Pentecost. If Paul allowed the shame of his past to demobilize him, we wouldn’t have two thirds of the New Testament.
The Pharisees were always trying to shame Jesus but Jesus’ answer to shame was love every time; a great example of Jesus stepping in when Simon tried to use shame for correction is in Luke 7:44-47
44 Then He turned toward the woman and said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I came into your house. You did not give me any water for my feet, but she wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. 45 You did not give me a kiss, but this woman, from the time I entered, has not stopped kissing my feet. 46 You did not put oil on my head, but she has poured perfume on my feet. 47 Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—as her great love has shown. But whoever has been forgiven little loves little.”
Replace that feeling of shame with the word of God every time it rises up in you.
Talk it out with the Lord and your spiritual mentors/ Pastors because they will keep up your confidence and pray with you.
The success or failure of healing from shame depends solely on who and what you surround yourself with.
Friend, I implore you from today to work on casting off shame and putting on the cloak of righteousness that Jesus the shame remover purchased for you with His blood.
For further Study
Personal declaration for the day
“Lord, I feel a great shame and I don’t like it or want it in my life. I know shame is not from you and it is only glory you gave me. From today, I will not allow shame to steal my joy and limit the wonderful woman You have made me. From today, I will not use shame to discipline my children or motivate my husband and staff. Lord Jesus, I submit this shame to you. Shame has no place in my life. Lord because you took my shame I am shameless in Jesus’ name. Amen!
Questions for you to reflect on
What do you see when look at yourself in the mirror, shame or Glory?
How do you treat people with shameful past?