ANOTHER LOOK AT FORGIVENESS
Mathew 6: 14-15 – for if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, verse 15. But if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
Forgiveness means that we lay down a grievance and let go of the right to take revenge. We let go of bitterness. We choose to stop dwelling on what the one who hurt us has done. One of the definitions of forgiveness says that forgiveness means to: allow room for error or weakness
When we wrong someone, we seek his or her forgiveness in order for the relationship to be restored.
Forgiveness is a key biblical concept in relation to our salvation and its practical application to our Christian life is important. Refusing to forgive others reveals a lack of appreciation for the mercy received from God.
Forgiveness does not mean we can change what happened or erase what was done. What’s done is done. All we can do is release ourselves from continuing to suffer for what happened to us in the past and dedicate ourselves to making sure that it does not happen in the future
Forgiveness is not something we do for someone else, but to free ourselves from unhealthy pain, anger and shame. Anger gives the appearance of being powerful, but leaves us feeling frustrated and powerless. Forgiveness appears weak, but leaves us feeling stronger and less vulnerable to others. Forgiveness is a gift to our own peace of mind, our self-esteem, our relationships with others and our future. Ephesians 4 vs. 31-32.
I’m not perfect at forgiving by any means; I have fallen short of God’s standard a lot of times. I’ve held on to my hurt because I felt that I had the right to. But in reality, the forgiveness I refused to grant was only hurting me. When we forgive, we experience peace because where there is no forgiveness there is always anger and anger and peace cannot co-exist inside the same heart. What I have leant to do over time as taught by Pastor Trish is to pray for that person and myself until I have peace. Currently I am doing that as well and it’s because it has worked for me in the past and I am sure it will work again, Amen.
Let your grievances go, give it to God and then give someone the gift of forgiveness even if you feel they don’t deserve it. It may take time, Press onto God. Ask for His help. He will not fail you
Friend, when you choose to embrace forgiveness and extend it to another, you will experience peace. But when you hold onto wrongs done to you, there will be the opposite: torment, anger, frustration and anxiety. Mathew 6:12.
For further Study
Ephesians 4: 31-32
Personal declaration for the day
Lord grant me the grace to forgive others their trespasses.
Questions for you to reflect on
How comfortable are you about praying for you offender?